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Unit IV
Raising Children
(Chapters 12-15)
Childrearing should proceed
according to the child's readiness in each realm: emotional, motivational,
social, intellectual, and physical.
This unit shows that if children are to develop to the fullest, growth
rates must be considered carefully and the environment planned accordingly.
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Illustrations
The concepts in Walden Two are often illustrated in daily
life. Below are students' illustrations
of three concepts in this unit. Supply
additional examples yourself of these or other key concepts in this unit.
"Self-control"
(96). "In any fancy shop, especially a clothing store, my older
sister knows no bounds. She just goes
wild. A new fall shirt is on display
and she just must have it. It will go
so well with her such-and-such sweater ,
a certain necklace, her shoes, or whatever. And out comes her magic card-the plastic money which you never
have, never seem to spend.
"The
ads today all count on our need for instant gratification: 'You can have it
all.' So people go out and spend a lot of time and a lot of money they don't
really have for things they don't really need. I think people today, in their twenties particularly, could have
used some early temptation training with soup or coins or whatever. Give 'em lollipop lessons. They need help to ignore the enticements of
our massive credit-card society, surely temptation's 'trump card."'
Experimental
question (103). "A number of weeks ago, my husband and I did an experiment
wherein we did not turn on our television set for 7 days. The aim of the experiment was to answer this
question: How would we spend our leisure time if we did not watch
television? And would we enjoy these
television-less days?
"After the 7 days we
had both completed several projects which had previously been put off because
'there just aren't enough hours in the day.' We also read more and talked more
to each other than during a t.v. filled week.
"As a result of this
experiment we now enjoy several t.v.-less days per week. We are also contemplating an experiment
with certain foods and living without a pet."
Design
a series of adversities (105). "I never gave my mother credit for being particularly creative
or enlightened in child-rearing techniques.
As I reflect back though I can recollect a very good use of behavioral
techniques. Two swimming instructors
had given up in their attempts to get me to put my face in the water. It seemed as though I was a child who would
never learn to swim. Finally my mother
decided that she would work with me.
"We went to the shallow
end of the pool and she threw my favorite toy in the water. It sank.
Without hesitation I retrieved the toy and eagerly returned it to her
for another dunking. She threw it in
the water again but just a little further out.
I had to actually get my elbows wet.
This wasn't exactly comfortable but I was having too much fun to
stop. The next toss was in water deep
enough that I had to actually get my shoulder wet. The process was repeated until I was comfortable at each
successive depth. The next toss required
that my neck and part of my check get wet and the game continued at that
level. The next toss was just deep
enough that I had to place my entire face in the water. Without instruction on 'breath-holding
techniques' I plunged to the bottom, retrieved my toy and didn't realize that
she had done in one hour what swimming instructors couldn't do in two previous
weeks."